On Not Attending a March

I didn’t go to a #WomensMarch today.

I have some feelings about it. I feel like I should’ve attended one, for sure. I consider myself a strong feminist, and I certainly support many of the issues for which women are marching today.

The pictures on social media have been inspiring. Thank you too all the marchers.

I don’t have strong reasons for not attending. I have excuses, mostly of the logistical variety. Dan’s in New York; I had something else on my calendar (specifically a deep clean of my daughters’ room among other things); I am struggling to balance my need to resist the current administration with self-care and self-protection.

Also: I’m kind of new at this “Fight the Power” kind of stuff, and my changes need to be incremental.

I have never been a protester or marcher. I don’t find anything wrong with them, I don’t question that they are valuable to the operation of our American democracy (such as it is). It’s just not something I’ve ever done for something I’ve believed in.

That will have to change, I recognize that.

But I wasn’t in a place to change it today.

Did you march? If not, why not? If so, do you find yourself in judgement of those who didn’t?

4 thoughts on “On Not Attending a March

  1. I did not march because I was away at Cub Scout Winter Camp. It was the perfect weekend to be unplugged. We left Friday afternoon (a little after the Trump/Bane comparison came out) got caught up with all the other stuff Sunday after getting home.

    I grew up protesting. Well, not actively until my teens when Reagan was elected. Then in the 1st Gulf War I protested. A lot. I quit my job to protest and shut down the federal building here in Seattle. I have been to marches and demonstrations since.

    The real issue is pacing. Don’t burn out. Sure, the numbers are impressive now, but what about in a year?

    My 11 year old daughter wanted to go, but having a toddler and 5 month old in the house meant my wife wasn’t able to go and take her because I was away. There will be more marches and demonstrations. We will be at some of those.

    1. Dang, you sound like a pro! I have never marched, so getting out on the street will be new for me. Maybe you can put together some tips for newbies like me.

  2. I did not go, but I support the women (and men) who did. A big part of my not going was fear; I worried that anti-protestors would do something, particularly with how contentious this whole election and aftermath has been (and continues to be). I also wanted to be home for moral and proofreading support of my kid’s (last!) science fair project. I knew that was hours of work. I decided instead to do a neighborhood clean-up. I unfortunately live in a community where there is a lot of litter. I figured since I was not ready to take that protesting leap, I could at least spend an hour bettering my square of the world. Although I am a little disappointed not to have gone, I think I made the right choice for me on that day.

    1. Thank you, and I agree that sometimes we have to take smaller actions. I have to start doing research into becoming more politically active locally. Grassroots and local politics have a lot more of an effect on my daily life — on all of our daily lives. So it’s good to start small.

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